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I might just be singing a lot of show tunes right now trash day

25 Mar

So the big news of today is that Patty is coming home. I’m doing research and tomorrow we’ll be grabbing her a plane ticket for April 7 or 8. For those of you not in the know, we’ve essentially been apart since September, although we got to spend a weekend in Zurich and ten days together in Cardiff in November and had about another ten days together over New Year’s (although some of that was lost to food poisoning). We’re used to this thing we do, and we’re very good at it. But this one was a long, hard slog. So while her coming home is always exciting, this one feels particularly momentous.

Meanwhile, I continue to roll around in the Glee fandom (someone drew art for one of my stories yesterday!), which we have already established will be her time to be all “Yeah, reading a book now,” when she comes home. Despite the fact that we met through fandom (thank you, Ellen Kushner), we don’t actually share fandoms with much frequency. Although sometimes she call me Jack when I’m being particularly egregious, so it’s another wacky thing we navigate with good humor.

Speaking of pop-culture (this is the flimsiest segue ever), I’ve been meaning to make note of Rebecca Black, a teen who put out a really terrible video thanks to her parents paying to make it happen. The back story is as fascinating as the reaction to the video (which truly must be experienced to be believed). It raises a lot of questions about how we define a person as a public or private person in the digital age, bullying, slut-shaming, and whether there really is any such thing as bad publicity. I’d urge you to read this one.

Also deeply compelling is this piece about a mom having to unpack slut-shaming on the playground. Her son is eleven, and expressed to her disapproval that one girl he knew was kissing a lot of boys. And the reason he felt it was a problem seemed to be because of her gender.

Meanwhile, while out of the realm of stuff I often write about, it seems necessary that I note the existence of Mark Kirby, A. J. Sapolnick and their son Digby, a family that doesn’t seem to firmly fit into the category of fact, fiction, or art, because they’re pretty much all three all the time.

Next, a story that’s so irritating, I could write a full post on it, but I can’t bring myself to: an author pulls a story of hers from a YA anthology because the editor says that the publisher won’t like that the main couple in it are two boys and one has to be turned into a girl. Of course, later it turns out the publisher doesn’t care and the editor is defending herself with “Well, I assumed other people are homophobic, but I’m not; I once touched a gay person.” Not even kidding. I so do not have the bandwidth for this crap. But I will note, I am sick of my sexuality being described as alternative. At least we didn’t hit “lifestyle” on the bingo card.

Finally, on one more personal note, there are only 7 seats left in my Public Relations for Creatives 101 class on March 31, so if you’re planning to register, you should do so soon.

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5 Responses to “I might just be singing a lot of show tunes right now trash day”

  1. Lori S. March 25, 2011 at 2:49 pm #

    Oh wow. I just wrote a piece about kissing and slut-shaming (and, incidentally, Glee!), also at Good Vibes:

    http://magazine.goodvibes.com/2011/03/24/any-two-boys-or-girls-kissing/

    The author of the post you linked to is a neighbor 🙂

  2. Fafner March 25, 2011 at 2:50 pm #

    The Digby story reminded me of this: http://kidicarus222.blogspot.com/2011/03/fast-strange-great-sad-life-of-joe.html

  3. Meredith March 25, 2011 at 3:29 pm #

    The weird part is, I know another author with a story in that anthology and she’s queer.

  4. Anton March 25, 2011 at 4:03 pm #

    OF course that song is awful. But so are a lot of Glamor Shots and everyone did that for the longest time. I read today that she was making a big donation of the money she makes selling the song on iTunes to Japan relief. So really, fuck yeah Rebecca Black and that doofy bizarre video.

  5. Malle Babbe March 29, 2011 at 11:05 am #

    I just want to thank you for the Good Vibrations article; it went a long way towards explaining a lot of confusing and scary behavior that came my way as a teen. You know, the whole “I hate you / Please sleep with me” schtick… With the expectation that I was supposed be OK with being alone in a dark room with someone openly hostile to me. Yeah, I don’t get it either…

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